Personal: What it is like to be a High Sensitive Person

Hi there loves,

Today I want to talk a little bit about what it is like to be a High Sensitive Person (HSP). For months I was in doubt wether I should blog about this or not… At some point high sensitivity seemed to be a hype and it felt wrong to jump onto the so called hype train. I did not really seem genuine to me. I saw multiple blogposts where people where talking about being a high sensitive person and I will not second guess if they are – as I think it’s not a psychological disorder or anything, it’s more a personality type – but it felt wrong to share my blog at the same time.

But now that I feel the ‘hype’ is a little bit over, and I am feeling more comfortable in my own skin, I feel like I can finally write about this and tell you a little bit about my experience.

Let me tell you this before reading on; for me it’s both a blessing and a curse to be a high sensitive person…

Baci,
Saranda

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I have known for a couple of years now, that I’m most likely a high sensitive person. When I was studying Applied Psychology, about 5 years ago, I was learning all about disorders, psychological theories, personality, development and more. I was so happy with my education and I feel like I learned a lot during these 4 years. Not only about psychology, but also a lot about myself.

I was always worrying about everything…

I remember someday, I hope I recall this correctly. But my dad told me I had to read a certain book – the power of now by Eckhart Tolle – basically because I was always worrying about everything… Than I remember another moment, where I am getting interested in high sensitivity and HSP, my mom tells me about this book from Elaine Aron about HSP, and I get to borrow it from someone – I think one of my moms colleagues.

The book was an eyeopener and so was the test she has on the website hsperson.com. I felt like I learned something about myself, I was most likely a HSP. But now what? It wasn’t a psychological disorder I just diagnosed myself with, there was not even an option to get a true 100% diagnoses. So I just went on living my life, knowing my hypersensitivity was not just something random.

How I know I am a high sensitive person?

There are a couple ‘symptoms’ that really tell me, personally, that I am a bit different than non-HSP’s. I think however that this is different for every HSP, so this is very personal.

One of the things I have always noticed is that I really feel it in my gut when people don’t genuinely like me. I always try to ignore this feeling and I will always be kind, but over the years I figured out that unconsciously, I did not ignore it at all and that it actually made me act sort-of different to be liked…

Another thing, sort of related to the gut feeling I am writing above, is that I can always feel it when somebody is sad, anxious, happy, confused, I feel tensions between people, and this can have a HUGE effect on my personal mood. For example: When I come into a room where the people I am meeting just had an argument, it can make me feel very uncomfortable, anxious and I can even get stomach aches from it.

Finally, there is one thing that is super annoying to me, is that I just can’t seem to filter. Whenever I am in a busy train and everyone is talking, I can’t focus on whatever I am doing and I tend to follow every freaking conversation in the space. This always makes me very tired.

On a more positive note…

Luckily there are a lot of benefits to being a high sensitive person as well. At least in my eyes!

The first two things I am describing above can actually help me as well, if I cope with it well. It saves me time – from not spending time with people that don’t really like me. Also, the relationships I do have bring me a lot and only give me a lot of energy instead of draining me from it! And it gives me information on how to comfort / help / talk to the ones I love whenever they are struggling with something.

Besides this I am hugely empathic and very compassionate. I can feel very deeply about personas within my favorite series.

Also I have this HUGE imagination which helps me with everything creative I do.

High sensitive and high sensation

There are basically two types of high sensitive persons; calm and introvert HSP’s and high sensation seekers. The second group is high sensitive but this group is more extravert and outgoing.

I sort of fit into this second category of HSP & HSS. Basically this means that while I am high sensitive and get overstimulated very quickly, I also tend to get bored very quickly and I am always looking for a new challenge.

Imagine someone trying to hit the gas and the brakes at the same time; yep that is me 😉

All in all I feel like for me, being a high sensitive person can be a curse sometimes, but also a blessing. It’s not always easy to cope with overstimulation and negative vibes, but the positive things I experience due to being high sensitive will most of the time outweigh the negative!

 

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  • Sandrina Walgaard

    Mooi en duidelijk geschreven😍😘

  • momfever

    Als je heel gevoelig bent voor prikkels dan kan ik me voorstellen dat dit best zwaar is.

    Nicole Orriëns

    • Het is niet altijd makkelijk nee, maar gelukkig zijn er ook veel positieve kanten aan het hele verhaal! 🙂

  • Elles Mulder (3lles)

    Mooi geschreven! Knap dat je zo iets durft te schrijven. Het lijkt me wel echt vervelend als mensen er een soort ‘trend’ van maken, ik snap wat je bedoelt!
    Liefs,
    Elles

    • Dankjewel voor je reactie Elles, ik vond het schrijven niet eng maar heb deze blogpost bewust nog niet teveel gedeeld in mijn eigen netwerk, toch spannend wat voor reacties je er op gaat krijgen! xx

  • Mirte H

    wat mooi heb je dit geschreven! En dat je dit durft te schrijven vind ik ook heel knap.

  • Maya de Bij

    Sounds a bit like me! You have a lot of negative sides, but the positive sides weigh heavier for me. I’m glas this is me <3

    • Fijn dat je je er in kan vinden! Het is misschien niet altijd fijn of handig, maar er zijn een hoop positieve kanten als je er goed mee om gaat! <3

  • Beauty Unboxing

    Knap dat je dit hebt geschreven. Onder veel mensen is het echt nog een taboe.

  • Mieke van der Sande

    wat goed en knap dat je hier zo open over schrijft, liefs

  • Tania

    Knap dat je hierover durft te bloggen. Hierdoor weten we ook wat het juist is

  • evelyne

    Hey Saranda! Super dat je hier een artikel over hebt geschreven. xx Evelyne